December 7, 2003

• [#20] queerasfolk

  
  

  After having visited my parents' like every Saturday, I went to a bar at night with some friends -- two of Kk's students from his voluntary English speaking class (for gay men), who are both in their 40-50's. I've known them for a long time and now they want to go to Shanghai so came to me for some advice. We had a nice talk and met this super cute boy in the bar!!! Wanna see his foto? Click the tiny thumbnail but he's so cute so be prepared:)   

  
  

  Later another guy came, he is a friend of theirs and he is a senior 'seat attendant' in North West Japan. Guess what's the price he got for all of them to fly to Shanghai? A mere more than 10,000yen! (abt $100). The cheapest tickets usually cost at least $300-$400! I know one of my AirplainFreak friend is getting jealous now, lol And what's more, I just found two of them graduated from Chu-o, my school, decades ago! Hay, isn't that great!!!???

  
  

  
  

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  Today, after I got up, I went out to meet a friend who I met on the net for the first time. I got his message while I was looking for friends in Shanghai through internet these days and he said he's from Shanghai but is also living in Japan now. Always be glad to hear from folks from my dear old town. So we met up today. He turned out to be this 185cm tall boy, with a little feminine looking. He said he's been here for 3 years and had never been to Ni-chome (the gay area in Shinjuku) tho he wants to coz he's afraid and he knows nobody here who is gay. That PERFECTLY reminded me of me 4 years ago when I just came to Tokyo. Alone, lonely, lack of friends and courage and dun know where to go!!! The difference he's been here for 3 years now and he 'sort of ' had experience before. What kind of experience? I asked. The he told me something really shocked me: he dated 2 guys in high school, in the same class, who were both straight. Besides them, he knew nobody who's gay or who's in the community whatever he is and every one of his other normal friends thought the two guys were ugly and told him to try dating other guys and all that jazz...I was like WAIT A DAMN MINUTE! That happened in China? High school? You dating straights? And your friends! They were so supportive and told you to date other guys? WOW! I could only listen with a huge question mark on my face...I started realizing how amazingly fast China is changing these days, heehee.

  
  

  He had broken up with both of  his two 'straight' boyfriends,  because they both have girls in their lives now. Poor boy. He's now nit...nit...Azzzcheeeeew! Sorry, knitting a scarf for the one just broke up recently as a goodbye present. What a boy, I probably would do the same...Why didn't I think of that, dammit...only if I know how to knit! We talked over lunch abt loads of things. I found out that boy obviously doesn't have a coming-out problem between him and his mom as I do between me and mine though he is worried...When one of his EXes was talking about coming to Japan a while ago before they broke up, he made a huge plan of moving out, renting a room and living with him and went looking for a huge queen-size bed in the furniture shops, with his mom! OMGosh, I just wish to borrow his mom for...five minutes, izat ok?

  
  

  The thing is I was always afraid to deal with younger guys...uhh, I mean anyone who's younger than me means younger...coz I'm bad at it! Even sometimes age and knowledge doesn't have to be balanced, I feel I'm already the one who needs to be taught, educated and if you are younger and know less even than, say...me, sorry, it's just not my responsibility to...but anyway, today I did pretty well I think. I carried on my shoulder the duty of an elder brother letting his younger Queer Folk boy know more and see more, and yes I think I made it. But don't even think that I'm already a sophisticated bitch! Not yet, not yet! (I started realizing why Toooqt4u2 just called me Pimp Daddy recently...)

  
  

  I'd love to call it a culture revolution coz I spent half an hour explaining (almost arguing!) why Madonna has to be a gay icon and 15 minutes on why gay people like rainbow flags, sometimes even panties...and spent a lot more time later wondering why did I have to start from there...? Anyway it was fun listening to myself saying all these stuff even I didn't know before I stepped in...well everyone has a start right? And now I'm almost glad to see that someone else is 'starting' with my helps, whether they are helpful or not! Wish I could just plug a USB cable in my tiny fragile head and connect my brain with his (a much bigger one), so he can take whatever he wants, whether it is garbage or shit, just take it by himself, coz I dun want to be responsible for misleading!

  
  

  Later we even went to Ni-chome -- his first DEBUT in Ni-chome tonight! Again it reminded me of myself 4 years ago when I just came out here... And again it was nice to see him feeling safe making his first Gay night debut because of me! We went to three bars coz I wanted to check out all the boi...oooops! I wanted to let HIM check out all the different styles of bars in the area. And we ran into friends of mine so I introduced him to them, blah blah blah. When I got home, I just felt my legs and jaws were soooo sore from walking and talking too much! What's more, he had successfully made me feel that I'm all of a sudden 30 years older than yesterday! But somehow I'm still glad. He's my friend from now on. I never had any younger gay friends around and he is the first. And he is my Queer Folk (have an older friend from Shanghai tho, we met him tonight too)! But if he dares call me Sensei (teacher, master) one day, I'd slap his cheeks. PHUM!

  
  

  Ok, I'm tired now. Bed, here I come. Jump! Ouch!

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